MANY KIND PEOPLE BEING SEX

Sex, Nude, Bogel, Gay, Lesbian, Porn, Naked…

I actually want to write about consensus and commitment between a husband and a wife. Is it really important to have a spouse that have more things in agreement with you, especially things that are important, for instances, religious matter, politics, cultural values, financial, and family? If it is, then I’m in desperation of finding one.

My housemate went to the compulsory matrimonial course. He told me that the people from Islamic Welfare Department mentioned there were cases where people got divorced because of some sappy reasons - the husband doesn’t put his toothbrush at the right place, the husband likes to flip channels when watching TV, the husband keeps long ugly armpit hair, the wife nags a lot, the wife is a lousy cook, the wife farts a lot…

I sometimes argue with my friends over certain ideas we disagree with each other. Sometimes emotionally, sometimes I lose the friend, and most of the time, I keep quite because I don’t want to argue with a friend I don’t want to lose.

My younger brother and I quarreled a lot when we were growing up. We’re only 16 months apart, with me being the older one, and that also means I have more ego. I don’t like competetion. Every time mother sided him when we quarreled, I felt as if I lost to him. I became more angry… and more quite in the family.

I used to read a column in a women’s magazine. A wife complaining about her husband being so quiet at home. I think it’s the same thing. Some men will try to avoid a conflict by not doing things that can cause the wife to nag or disagree with. It’s not easy to agree to disagree especially on big things with someone you will live with for the rest of your life. Every disagreement will be a gap between two persons. How big a gap can we tolerate?

Most porn surfers from Kota Baru and Kuantan

PETALING JAYA: Internet surfers in Kota Baru and Kuantan topped the list of local pornographic website visitors, according to Google Trends.

The most searched entries are “bogel” (nudity), “gambar bogel” (nude pictures), “seks Melayu” (sex involving Malays) and “cerita seks” (sex stories).

Google Trends is a leading Internet application provider by online search engine Google.

A check by mStar Online, The Star’s Malay online portal, found that Internet users in Alor Star, Kota Kinabalu, Batu Pahat, Johor Baru and Petaling Jaya preferred the entry “bogel”.

Kota Baru surfers searched mostly for “sex” and “porn” while surfers in Batu Pahat, Petaling Jaya, Johor Baru, Klang and Shah Alam searched mostly for “Melayu bogel” (nude Malays).

“Gambar bogel” is a favourite among Internet users in Kuantan, Kota Baru, Alor Star, Kota Kinabalu, Batu Pahat, Johor Baru and Petaling Jaya.

“Seks Melayu” is also popular among those in Klang, Batu Pahat, Johor Baru, Petaling Jaya and Ipoh.

Universiti Malaya psychologist Assoc Prof Dr Jas Laile Suzana Jaafar viewed the development as a normal phenomenon, especially in Kelantan which practised conservative policies in sensitive matters such as sexuality.

“If a teenager was the one who searched for it, it is normal because of puberty and he has to learn about sexuality to understand the changes they experience.

“If teenagers ask their parents or peers, how much information can they get? In Kelantan, parents are not open to talking about sexuality with their children,” she said, adding that some parents tend to regard the subject as a taboo.

Dr Jas Laile also said some research studies found that searching for sex materials online could lead to addiction.

However, she pointed out that the data in Google Trends did not give a full picture because it did not show information such as the age group of the Internet users.

“We cannot make a general conclusion, because if one aspect in the survey was wrong everything would be wrong,” she said.

Google Trends, at its official website, said the data shown was not an accurate yardstick as it only analysed part of the entries in Google.

According to information and technology communications writer Oon Yeoh, most Internet users who searched for sex materials were new users.

He said they would explore cyberspace because it could give them endless information compared with other media.